Frequently Asked Questions

Where is your office located?

My office is conveniently located on the outskirts of Media, PA because I find parking in Media and navigating the Trolley pretty stressful and don't want my clients to have to experience that hassle. So I'm near the intersection of Route 1 and 252, in the red brick building next to DiFabio's restaurant. The main entrance is at the back of the building where you will find plenty of free parking. Come in the back door, go through the next two doors (no need to take the elevator or stairs), turn left and come down the hall, and my office is on your left, Suite #3, BeDoThrive, with my colleague Dr. Patrick McHugh. My office is wheelchair accessible.

BeDoThrive

1st Floor, Suite #3

1223 N Providence Road

Media, PA  19063

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What are your hours?

My hours are Monday through Friday from 11am to 5pm. On occasion I will meet with therapy clients, who for work reasons need an early evening appointment, on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays at 5 or 6pm.

How long is a session?

Sessions are 50 minutes unless we agree that we need more time.

How do I set up an initial appointment?

Just give me a call at (484) 816-6181. We will chat for a few minutes and I'll ask you a few questions and get to know your situation a little bit and make sure I am able to help you. If I'm confident that my skills are a good fit for your goals, and if you are feeling good about working with me as your therapist or coach, then we can schedule an initial session. How's that sound?

What age ranges do you work with?

I work with clients aged 18 on up. The average age of my clients is approximately 42.

Do you work with individuals? Couples?

I work with both individuals and couples. In addition, I welcome clients and couples of all races, colors, genders, gender expressions, sexual orientations, religions (creeds), origins (ancestry), disabilities, marital status, and military status.

What does your office look like?

The back of the building and main entrance

The back of the building and main entrance

Our comfy waiting room

Our comfy waiting room

My office where we will meet

My office where we will meet

What do you actually do in sessions with clients?

Each time we meet, will will start by creating an agenda for our time together. We will revisit where we ended the last session, review anything you've noticed and learned between sessions, and we will get clear about what you want to get out of the session today.

As you share, I will listen deeply and ask clarifying and thought provoking questions. We will look at whatever you are dealing with from a variety of angles and perspectives, including engaging in experiential exercises and various mindful and creative practices to help you pause, increase your awareness of options and choices, and to spark new ideas for solutions and ways forward.

As we wrap up the session I will ask you to reflect on and share what you are taking away from the session, including any new insights, practices you want to try or continue to use, and actions you want to take in your life.

Do your clients receive assignments to work on between sessions?

I firmly believe and adhere to a form of therapy and coaching that honors you as the expert in your life and work, and I believe that every client is creative, resourceful, and whole. This means that you are in the drivers seat regarding what you want to do and choose to do between sessions.

Whatever you choose, whatever you are able to do or not do, we will reflect on it and learn from it, so you can't fail here and you won't be judged. I promise!

What modalities do you use in your client work?

In our work together, you will benefit mainly from evidenced based the thoroughly researched Contextual Behavioral Science modalities including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy & Training (ACT), Relational Frame Theory (RFT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Experiential techniques, and Mindfulness practices. My work is also deeply informed by Attachment Theory and Family Systems / Systems Theory. 

Lately I have been dipping my toe into Coherence Therapy which offers the promise of ELIMINATING (not just managing) unwanted behaviors, moods, emotions, and thoughts through an approach called Memory Reconsolidation. This is a very exciting evolution of transformational methodology based in neuroscience and trauma research. Stay tuned!

What's the difference between Therapy and Coaching?

The type of coaching that I offer is specific to leadership development and executive performance and addresses opportunities like effective leadership under significant pressure, accelerating growth in a new role, improving performance in a current role, developing leaders for new or larger opportunities, leading through change, and facilitating career decisions and transition. An Executive Coaching engagement begins with identifying a specific coaching program for the leader that includes clearly defined goals, stakeholders, timing, and metrics of success.

Therapy work is also focused and we will be clear about supporting you in achieving your goals, however our work can and will go much deeper than coaching can. Our work together in therapy will offer you more fundamental transformation and healing, and has more potential to enhance your well being and life overall. You will notice that coaching skills are used from time to time in the therapeutic relationship, for example in setting goals and in managing accountability - but it's important to note that coaching skills are used to augment the fruits of therapeutic work, not as the primary methodology of change.

Can we meet by phone?

Due to the nature of my license and credentials, at this time, therapy is only offered face to face in the state of Pennsylvania.

Coaching is usually done by phone and clients can be (and often are) in any location across the globe.

Do you support the use of medication in treating mental health challenges?

You'll find that I only have a very few firm rules. First and foremost is "it's only a problem if it's a problem". Second, and maybe more important, we will constantly be measuring effectiveness by asking the question "How is it working for you?"

Therefore, if you experience that medication is helping you to take actions, try new strategies, and thrive in your life, then I'm all for it!

If on the other hand, you notice that medication is numbing you out, or is a crutch that you are leaning on instead of learning new skills and approaches that will offer you more agency, independence, and psychological flexibility, then medication is potentially a problem, and maybe not really working in your best interest.

Either way, we will figure out what is right for you at each stage of our work together. Sometimes highly anxious or depressed clients benefit from a little bit of medication at the beginning of our work so that they can settle in, focus, and stick with trying things that have been way too difficult in the past.

I am not a medical doctor, I do not prescribe medication, nor do I offer advice regarding medication. However I am very familiar with the various medications that are used to support mental health and will collaborate with your physician if you would like (and give consent) on your overall well being.

If you do not have a prescribing physician, I can recommend a couple of individuals in our area whom I trust.

What else does a client need to know to make the most out of working with you?

Funny enough, showing up on time, or even a few minutes early to settle yourself in the waiting room or to settle yourself before our phone call, is one of the most important factors that helps my clients make the most out of our work together. Because we only have 50 minutes, arriving even 4 or 8 minutes late can reduce our ability to explore your opportunities and challenges by a significant amount and decreases the quality and effectiveness of our work.

The other thing that really makes a huge difference in maximizing the benefits from our work together is when you take a few minutes before our session to reflect on these three questions and write down a few notes to share with me:

  1. What's been working for me in my life, relationships, and/or work? Maybe a new practice is really helping, or a new communication approach. Maybe pausing before taking action has made a big difference, or a new perspective supported you in a new way of being with your partner or co-workers.
  2. What's not working for me and/or What am I avoiding?
  3. What do I want to change? What do I want to be different in my life at this point?

 Jot down whatever you are noticing so that you can share it with me first thing when we begin. It will reall y help focus us in our efforts to make your life what you want it to be.

What brand of tissues do you use?

Years ago when I was working at an outpatient community mental health agency, a client mentioned to me that "even these rough tissues show how little they care about us". This really stuck with me. It's so often the details that count most - especially in paying attention to what really matters.

In my office you'll find lots of careful attention to what really matters, including deep listening and several boxes of Kleenex® ultra soft and trusted care tissues. If you prefer another kind of tissue, just let me know.

What do all those letters after your name mean?

Essentially they mean that I really love learning things that will benefit my clients. My kids think all those letters are hilarious and honestly it is pretty funny. I really do LOVE to learn! So here's the decoder ring...

  • LSW - Licensed Social Worker in the state of Pennsylvania (SW131474)
  • MSS - Master of Social Service degree (which is equivalent to an MSW) from Bryn Mawr College’s Graduate School of Social Work and Social Research (GSSWSR)
  • MBA - Master of Business Administration degree from The Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania
  • PCC - Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation (ID: 9004889) This certification requires a year of graduate school education which I satisfied by earning an Evidence Based Coaching (EBC) certificate at Fielding Graduate University, 500 hours of supervised coaching experience, and passing the ICF exam.

Why the name BeDoThrive?

Each of us was born a Human Being, but along the way so many of us become Human Doings. Sounds funny but it's true. And all of that constant doing can result in us being very distracted, stressed out, highly anxious, feeling hopeless and often worn out and just downright depressed.

All of that doing is also very "heady", demanding lots of thinking and analyzing and making sense of things with our heads. We can end up being heads that are just carried around by our bodies, but totally cut off from each other. Our bodies don't like this and they let us know - expressing their dis-ease through insomnia, chronic pain, stomach issues, headaches, chest pains, panic attacks, you name it.

So I've spent decades searching for the solution to this dilemma, and guess what? The answer is simple, but not easy. It turns out we are designed first to BE and then, and only then, to DO. And when we honor that sequence, we THRIVE in our life, our relationships, our health, and our pursuits. No matter how much of a Human Doing you find yourself to be at this point in time, I can help you to reconnect with Being so that you can Thrive.

First BE, then DO = THRIVE

Can you help me?

I don't know, but let's chat and see. Please give me a call today and let's get started making your life what you want it to be!